Your Team will either help you make it, or totally break it.

Ohhh, this one. Okay, so substitute out “Team” for any type of friend/group of friends, clients, a mentor, or confidant (i.e.: your therapist), support group, network, mastermind group, even your family unit (who you spend time with) The applicable lesson here is that clarity and communication of the common goal, vision and values are so important. If you are bringing someone(s) in to your life, do your best on the front end to research the fit. What I mean is, you need to be really clear in your own vision, mission, operation, your values, what matters, and what you want to achieve before you offer space for others to join you. Even if you don’t know what the outcome will look like. For example, starting a new business without systems and processes, the clarity is “I dont have this system in place, I am building something from nothing, and need help. Are you down for this ride?” Or going to therapy for the first time “I am not sure what this looks like but I am here because I want to feel better and feel like it would help me to talk some stuff out with a trustworthy person” or a new nanny/babysitter: “…not sure if our vibes are going to match, and that you’ll be a good fit for our family, but you come highly recommended.” So, do your research, if you are going to extend trust and dependability, have a trial period, be really clear with your intention during that period, and have open honest conversations throughout checking in. Lululemon is one of my favorite companies and they have a practice called “checking the pulse” It happens a couple of times a year, checking the pulse of their employees, management, systems, etc. Implementing these checkpoints can save a lot of trouble, drama, trauma and create honest evaluation which can help direct the path forward. Another fact I have learned (by trial and error of course) is that no matter how much trust, faith, belief I have in someone, they still may not be a good fit. Like in business, you might be a really cool friend, but a not so great contributor to my team. You may be awesome at hanging out having a coffee, but suck at selling and managing money. When it comes to getting somewhere positive and forward, the ones you want to link arms with and roll forward will be made clear to you, so steer your energies away from those that cause more stress than it’s worth. Action: Start with yourself. Where are you responsible/have been irresponsible/not your best self? Where were you unkind in thoughts, words, actions? Where have you been dishonest, and not true to yourself? Where did you let reaction lead versus response? Change starts with you. Have honest, compassionate conversations with others, and allow for space new creation and reorganization. Acknowledge others for all that they have done, how they have helped you grow, and value that they have brought into your life, business, relationships. Being able to move forward with grace, ease, and understanding helps everyone, now matter what the final outcomes end up being.